This is NOT a post specifically about LGBTQ, but it does include it. We’re talking about coming out about owning personal truths here, whatever they are.
I watched a video today that a few friends had posted on Facebook. What provoked my curiosity was the tagline about how a lesbian addressed the question of “Are you a man?” from a child. The talk itself however could not be boiled down to something so trite. I think that was the hook to get more people to watch. What really struck me about the talk was Ash’s discussion of presence and authenticity in all areas of life.
I agree that being our true selves in every moment is essential. And I agree that sometimes showing up as yourself may seem as scary as the big hairy monster under your bed. But when you do step into your own light, there is less pain overall, less energy that needs to be used to keep that secret, more truths to build trust between you and those around you.
While coming out of the closet in the way Ash describes over and over to co-workers and family might not be easy, those living openly are freer. Life is easier for someone whose truth is visible and not hidden because they have to spend less time afraid and hiding themselves. While internal feelings are sometimes harder to share than the external, they are just as important to be out in the open.
No one should live in a closet.
What we can do to help each other come out of the closet is to show up and listen without judgement. Especially if someone is sharing their truth. Simply being with whatever that reality is without judgment. Having compassion for others situations, is much easier when you sit in presence with what they are saying.
Speaking your truth.
Even when talking about something that I am totally open about in public, in small groups I’ve been approached by people thanking me and feeling empowered to relate their own truth because of my openness. Sometimes it’s hard to bring these things up but they are me – also I’m committed to speaking my truth and being honest when asked a direct question.
We need everyone fully here to make the changes to have a better world so please come out of your closet.
Love’s the only thing that’s real.